I got some not so good news this evening. It seems that my son, Ryan, got kicked out of Lifeline Ministries. He was in charge of driving the van and taking fellow addicts to and from their jobs. Someone got ahold of a bottle of vodka and he and some others drank. His dad called Joe twice today to talk to him about it. Joe had the dreaded job of telling me tonight. I would like to say that I am surprised but really I'm not. I hate that too, but I think I would be unrealistic to think any other way. Now don't get me wrong. I am very disappointed. We were so very proud of the progress he had made. He was looking so good and acting like the Ryan we all know and love. But he is an addict. Addicts do what addicts do. It doesn't make it right, it doesn't mean that I am any less upset about it. I'm just not really surprised.
His dad was going to get him and let him stay at his house for a while. I don't know if that means a few hours, a few days or what. I called Kevin (his dad) and left a message to call me but I have not heard from him as of yet. I know that Kevin wants to help Ryan but you see I don't think that is the thing to do. I don't think that Ryan should be allowed a place to stay, food, access to TV, and all of that nonsense when he did something wrong. I think that he should have to take care of himself. Until he is made to be responsible for himself he will never get better. That might sound harsh but damnit it's true. He is an adult. He knows right from wrong. He is the only one that can control him.
I know that a lot of you guys have experience in this area. What are your thoughts?