and Ryan never called him back last night. We don't know where he is. Kevin (his dad) didn't know what to do. He feels guilty and thinks he needs to help him. He finally asked me what I thought. That is when I started. I told him that he did NOT need to help Ryan. Ryan is a grown man. He has the ability to make his own decisions. After all, he made the decision to take a drink yesterday. He has to deal with the consequences. I told him that we have helped so much over the years and it was time to let him go. It is between him and God now.
I have made it very plain to Ryan how I feel about this. I will protect my serenity at all costs. Kevin finally heard me. He realizes that what I am saying is right. He told me so many times last year when Ryan wouldn't show up for work (he worked for Kevin) about how upset he (Kevin) was and how disappointed in Ryan he was. He told Ryan this but it didn't matter to Ryan. Ryan was going to do what Ryan wanted to do. Well, I say go ahead Ryan. Do what you want to do because the world is your oyster. You can do whatever you want to do. Including hitting bottom, if that is what it comes to. I don't think there is anywhere else he can go. With that said, just because he drank yesterday doesn't necessarily mean that all is lost. He can still stay sober today and tomorrow and from now on. But that is up to him, not me, not his dad.
I do hope and pray that he will make the right decisions for himself. But again, that is up to him. No one can save him, no one can do this for him. Only God can help him help himself.