Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Life goes on

I'll start with this sweet beauty

steph[1]

Just looking at that picture makes me die a thousand deaths. She looks so innocent and sweet and beautiful and, well you know what I mean.

She is my world. She has been through a lot in her 17 yrs. Much more than she should have been through. She still has not heard from her biological father even though we have sent 2 emails, one with pictures of her splinted leg and he still has not called. Then there is her brother Ryan. She has seen him change so much from the drug use. She has seen her mother worry and cry. She knows what abusing pain medicine can and will do. She vows to never ever be like that. And I believe her. She was prescribed pain meds for her recent injury and she took a total of 2 the entire time she was recovering. One was taken the day she was kicked and one the next day. If there is anything positive that has come from his drug abuse it is the lesson he has taught his sister.

She has been dating the same guy for 1 1/2 years which in high school terms is an eternity. Greg is good to her. She is good to him. I really think they are in love. They both say they will get married. I told her the other day that before they get married I want them to get some marriage counseling. She kinda looked at me like huh? I told her it would get them off to a good start, that marriage is a very very hard thing. Especially to get married at such an early age.

I hope everyone has a great day today and remember to be grateful for what we have, not what we want.

12 comments:

Jan Blawat said...

My son has had a best friend since he was 7 who comes from a family that has gone through a lot. The mother always let me know what was going on in their house so I could keep my son home if I decided to. But she said having him as a friend meant a lot to all of them. Sometimes I worried, but it all turned out well. Both boys learned from observing that good people can make bad decisions. They are careful, thoughtful, and wise. Having a perfect life does not necessarily make perfect kids, it can give them unrealistic expectations. I just wish there was a way to get the older ones back, surely there is more value to their lives than just serving as a bad example. XOX

MichelleSG said...

That is a beautiful picture of Steph. It's good to know that she is doing well, and yeah, marital counseling is always a good idea. I married when I was 18. Of course it was to the wrong guy. I did meet, and date, my soul mate when I was 16. We just took awhile making it to the grown up and married part. True love does happen young. Some of us are just too young and stupid to recognize it. Best wishes to her, she's a trooper!

Lou said...

Just like me, I know you love Steph and Ryan equally. We cannot help ourselves. They know it too, and they understand that.

fernvalley01 said...

You have a beautiful daughter , a testament to the beautiful heart you have yourself!

Gin said...

Absolutely beautiful pic. I think your idea of marriage counseling is a very good one! Young love and especially young marriages can be tough!

Dusty Devoe said...

Stephanie is really beautiful! I think it is a great idea to go through marriage counseling.

Zanejabbers said...

Lovely pic, lovely daughter. Loved your last comment.

Dan and Betty Cooksey said...

Very nice picture of Stephanie. I totally agree with your recommendation to get GOOD marriage counseling -- by good I mean a program that will take them through many aspects of things that make or break a marriage and forces them to look deeper at their relationship. Betty and I have done premarital counseling for over 12 years now and we're sold on it.

Dan

Patty said...

I love that pic of Steph. She looks just like a movie star.

Pony Girl said...

"I hope everyone has a great day today and remember to be grateful for what we have, not what we want." Great words, TB, great words!! I need to work on that one a little more, LOL! :)
You are a good mama!

Syd said...

A great tribute to your daughter. I agree that marriage is hard work. It takes a lot to stay together for many years, though thick and thin. Thanks for such a great post.

Chef ·˙ ۛ ♥ said...

Your daughter is lovely! And you're giving her very good, loving advice. Marriage is hard work and the better-prepared for you when going in, the better chance you have of making it work. She seems so sensible; I don't think you have much to worry about with her,

xox
Linda and Chef